Finding My Why: Have You Found Yours?

Do you know YOUR why? You know, that reason that gets you out of bed every morning? That reason which informs your yeses and nos in this stage of your life?

In different seasons of my life I may have had a different why, but in this season of life it’s become crystal clear for me, and here it is:

Equip and Inspire People to Lead with Growing Confidence and Excellence

So no matter whether I am in a pastoral role, a teacher role, an external relations role, a mom role or a wife role – this is my passion: to equip and inspire people to lead with growing confidence and excellence.

As a woman leader, I have had years of feeling that I didn’t measure up. Years of lacking confidence. Years of not understanding the how of doing things better. And in this last decade, I have discovered whose I am and who I am. And, I have gone to school…on purpose! I wanted an education, and I pursued it. I’m soooo close to being done, just a few more weeks.

Knowing whose you are (I belong in body and soul to my faithful saviour Jesus Christ) and who I am (a called, chosen, and unconditionally loved child of Almighty God) has changed everything for me. And I mean everything. Knowing whose I am and who I am has made braver and more courageous than I ever could have imagined possible. Being a student has been transformational for me.

Where does your brave and courageous come from? For me, it comes from my identity in Christ, AND it comes because I have set goals for myself and achieved them. I’ve worked hard, and I’m proud of that.

How did I get to my current why piece? How did I settle on my why?

I used Simon Sinek’s simple fill in the blank. Except I need to warn you, it’s not so simple. I mean, you really have to think deep and mine for the clarity of what you really want or feel your life is to be about. What legacy do you want to leave behind? How would you fill in this blank?

To __________________ so that ___________________.

Once you settle on that, you can use a friend or two to help you get it grammatically right – unless, of course, you’re a person unlike me who has exceptional grammatical accuracy. I need friends like that!

So, friend, what’s YOUR WHY? I’d love to hear it!

Ready for Service: Laying LEAD Women Down (For Now)

In Luke 12:35-38 we’re told to “be dressed and ready for service” and to “keep our lamps burning, like servants waiting for their master to return from a wedding banquet, so when he comes and knocks they can immediately open the door for him.” We’re also told in this passage that “it will be good for those servants whose master finds them ready.”

I get that the above passage has truth for being ready for Christ’s return, but it also has important truths for us in that we are supposed to be ready for action (i.e., service) or departure (i.e., Christ’s return). When Christ invites us to move, we need to be ready to move or to make a change.

I’m laying down growing LEAD Women for now, maybe forever, but I don’t have that confirmation yet. Why would I do such a thing when about 3 years ago I sensed to take this on? Because I’m a person waiting on Jesus’ knock and am willing to be redirected by the Spirit when it’s needed and necessary.

Am I still passionate about Empowering Christian Women to Lead with Confidence? 100%! That has not changed, but what has changed is that I have felt the Lord inviting and asking through other existing or growing ministries to continue equipping in the places and spaces their creating. I have felt the invitation come alongside and to serve. This has been such a joy!

I believe that we always need to loosely hold those things that do not belong to us while at the same time having a deep commitment to the Lord, our “Yes!”, that we will steward the gift(s) he’s placed within us in a way that makes him known to others. It’s about him. We are to be ready for service, in whatever spaces we feel him calling us to. Never be afraid to lay down a prestigious title or ministry – never! Our journey is about following Jesus into the places and spaces he leads us to.

I’m loving watching what God is doing through our Saskatchewan women and also across Canada. And I am humbled and absolutely love that there have been invitations extended to me to participate in some of these ministries. Let me name a few ministries that I’ve seen God touch peoples lives through. SisterhoodYXE. Women’s Journey of Faith. Gather Women. And so many others in our local churches.

To grow and steward a vision/mission is hard work. It takes many people willing to come together with their unique gifts. So what I’m saying is this: I’ve heard the knock of Jesus and I’m serving in existing and growing ministries, and until such time as I hear the call to pick up LEAD Women again, it’s laid down.

My passion is to stay studying, equipping, discerning, and listening for the knock of Jesus – all with a heart and mind ready for action when I hear his call. (Communal discernment has become an important practice for me.)

Is Jesus knocking on your door asking you to head in a new direction? Are you ready for action? Are you ready for service?

Much love to all my readers and to all those whom I’m crossing paths with, my heart is so full of excitement for what God has in store for you and me!

Rev. Carmen


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