I’d venture a guess that most of us, if not all of us, have at one time or another felt small because of the way someone treated us or perhaps didn’t treat us (unmet expectations). Even with just typing that first sentence out, my mind is already bringing to remembrance specific experiences, but because I’m not interested in staying stuck in my life but am determined to live my best life (in all areas), this short post finds it’s way to you.
In today’s post, I just want to give you five things you can intentionally do to make people feel important.
1. Pray for and with people. In your morning quiet time or wherever you best like to pray, pray. Ask God to show you what he likes about those around you. Celebrate that. Ask God to equip, empower, and inspire you to treat others well. In addition to that, if you have the opportunity to pray with someone, do it. It’s powerful when people pray with us for something!
2. Treat people with respect. 1 Peter 2.17a. Seriously, there is no need to be a jerk about things. Respect people. Period. You don’t have to agree with them, you don’t have to like their behaviours, but you can ALWAYS treat people with dignity and respect. This should be a no brainer, but I find myself learning this lesson over and over.
3. Intentionally and strategically appreciate people. Is something exciting happening in the lives of the people around you, your direct reports, or team members? If so, notice it. You can make people feel important by simply acknowledging the good or hard things going on. Be intentional. If you have to make yourself a task reminder on your calendar, then do so. People matter and we should let them know that.
4. Watch your tone and body language. Pay attention to yourself. Is your voice getting too loud? To quick? To edgy? Is your body language saying you don’t care? You’re ticked? You don’t like the person you’re talking to? You’re closed off? Practice mindful awareness of your body. And, if you don’t know yourself, now is an excellent time to start that journey!
5. Invite feedback. Inviting feedback has been one of the most significant catalysts for growth in my life. Well, that and the Lord’s discipline. If you really want to grow in an area, ask those around you to help you by providing you with feedback. Seek it out, and be gracious when they give it.
There you have it friends, a few thoughts for today. What would you add? Why would you add it?
Carmen, through teaching, speaking, pastoring, blogging, and podcasting, invests in others so they can lead and live better. She is the founder of LEAD Women Ministries, ordained with the PAOC, an Associate Pastor at Westside Pentecostal Church, holds an MA in Leadership & Management, and she can often be found collaborating with other leaders or organizations on projects where there are outcomes to grow people’s confidence, competence, and character.